It’s so misunderstood, friendship… it’s not about what you give or what you get, materially, but about time spent, about loyalty, trust… Knowing that even if they can’t be by your side, they’re at least there when you really need to talk. Maybe they can’t go out to coffee with you every weekend, maybe you don’t talk every single day… But when you need a shoulder, they’ll make you a priority. That’s friendship. And it’s a tremendous, undervalued, difficult to find, hard to keep, beautiful thing.
I learned something today about “highly sensitive” people. Not highly sensitive as in “Watch your step around her, you might look at her the wrong way and she’ll assume you hate her!”, but more like “Man, I don’t know how she does it, but she always seems to know when I’m upset about something, even if I try and hide it…”
HSPs often pick up on subtle non-verbal cues better than the average person, their nervous system is actually wired differently, which makes them highly sensitive to subtleties, loud noises, and can cause them to become abnormally overwhelmed in crowds. Yes, it can make us more likely to read into things incorrectly, more jumpy for no apparent reason, but no personality quirk is flawless!
I’ve been reading a lot about the differences between the extroverted and introverted personality types, and I noticed a rather annoying trend. I seems to be that most of the articles written on the subject are basically trying to communicate one thought universally: “Be gentle with introverts, they’re fragile” and “Just learn to accept extroverts loudness and lack of sensitivity”. And that’s just not true! Introversion is a gift, not a curse, not a disability, not hindrance. Extroversion is a gift as well. Not a “con”, not a trait to be kept under control to avoid “damaging” the poor little introverts.
If the world consisted purely of the socialite extrovert, where would the mystery be? Who would you go to when you just needed to sit and talk about your problems to someone and have them listen without telling you about all the times that “same thing” happened to them?
If the world consisted purely of introverts, the world would be too quiet. Amusement parks would be far less crowded, and we, as a nation of introverts, would be all locked away securely in our comfort zones with no way of knowing the adventure waiting for us out there.
Extroverts can be great listeners. Introverts can be bold and adventurous. We work together, as differing personality types, to bring out the hidden qualities within each other. As an introvert myself, I love spending time with my extroverted friends. They gently push me out of my comfort zone, their enthusiasm for trying new things is infectious, they draw me into a brand new world of experiences. I would have to ask them what/if I do for them exactly, but from what I see, I think I help them learn to slow down their pace. They have to work harder to learn about me and it slows them down and helps develop their patience. They learn how to take pleasure in discovering things about their introverted friends, rather than just receiving offered information, as is often the way extroverts get to know one another.
We’re not opposites, trying to get along. We’re two sides of the perfect coin, learning how to be better versions of ourselves.
Extroverts, don’t apologize for who you are. You give us the gift of adventure! Without you we might never climb the mountains of the unknown. Thank you for giving us that extra little push to greatness.
Introverts, don’t feel disabled by your struggle to let people in, those who really want to know you will enjoy every minute of the adventure of getting to know your heart. They’ll fall in love with your mysterious charm.
Let’s work together to bring out the best in each other.
Praise the Lord, my soul;
all my inmost being, praise his holy name.
Praise the Lord, my soul,
and forget not all his benefits—
who forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases,
who redeems your life from the pit
and crowns you with love and compassion,
who satisfies your desires with good things
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.
The Lord works righteousness
and justice for all the oppressed.
He made known his ways to Moses,
his deeds to the people of Israel:
The Lord is compassionate and gracious,
slow to anger, abounding in love.
He will not always accuse,
nor will he harbor his anger forever;
he does not treat us as our sins deserve
or repay us according to our iniquities.
For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
so great is his love for those who fear him;
as far as the east is from the west,
so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
As a father has compassion on his children,
so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him;
for he knows how we are formed,
he remembers that we are dust.
The life of mortals is like grass,
they flourish like a flower of the field;
the wind blows over it and it is gone,
and its place remembers it no more.
But from everlasting to everlasting
the Lord’s love is with those who fear him,
and his righteousness with their children’s children—
with those who keep his covenant
and remember to obey his precepts.
The Lord has established his throne in heaven,
and his kingdom rules over all.
Praise the Lord, you his angels,
you mighty ones who do his bidding,
who obey his word.
Praise the Lord, all his heavenly hosts,
you his servants who do his will.
Praise the Lord, all his works
everywhere in his dominion.
Praise the Lord, my soul.
What if you saw all the lies you believe about yourself for exactly what they are? Lies. Let’s peel back the layers and get real. Here are a few brave women who are changing the conversation about identity. Share this with someone who needs to hear it, and remember you are LOVE. #becauseiamLOVE #thechoosing
Posted by Rachelle Dekker on Tuesday, May 5, 2015
This quote is the reason that, in my search to find a journal that I could write letters to my future husband in, I chose this:
The first page has the quote written out in my sort of neat, sort of messy handwriting. Because really, I am almost 100% certain that my future husband will be a Tolkien fan (or at the very least will become one, I’m flexible, haha), because he really couldn’t understand me if he wasn’t. He will have to be an avid reader and appreciate the beauty of literature and the complexity of it. I could not imagine marrying a man who doesn’t love to read… Rather, I want to marry the kind of man who will laugh out loud while reading and insist on reading me the quote that amused him.
Why am I thinking so much about this right now? Well, I’m reading an AMAZING book titled “The Sacred Search” by Gary Thomas, which has already encouraged me greatly even though I’m only half way through. Honestly, I could sit here for hours and explain to you all the things I’m learning from this book, all the ways it has encouraged me, and how BADLY I want you to read it. But, I will just give you two little tiny snippets from it here.
First, what if it’s not about who you marry, but why?
Second, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:33
Right now, God has finally given me some direction in my life. Or, I should probably say, I finally stopped being so thick headed and saw what He has been trying to show me all this time. He’s beginning to help me understand, and learn how to practice the art of seeking Him out, and how to balance that with the search for a sole mate. (I didn’t misspell that, I am well aware I said “sole” rather than “soul”. Read the book to better understand why I chose to use that word specifically.)
Guys, God is working in my life and I am SO EXCITED.
Anyway, read the book! And have a fantastic day!
Sorry I haven’t been posting much, guys! I’ve been crazy busy. Usually I post the Lewis quotes right after I do my Bible study, and all this week I’ve been doing my Bible reading while on break at work, thus, I haven’t been able to post the quotes I’ve found!
My coworker who wanted to discuss with me the reasons she became and Atheist: She’s changed her mind about wanting to talk to me. But, she is willing to hangout with me sometime, so I have offered to treat her to a movie. We’ll see how it goes.
Other than that, pretty much just the normal stuff going on. Currently I’m trying to get a job as a full time nanny, but having little luck. So those of my readers who would like to pray for me, that would be a great thing to pray for!
I will post more quotes soon!
There is always some peace in having submitted to the right. Don’t spoil it by worrying about the result, if you can help it. It is not your business to succeed (no one can be sure of that) but to do right: when you have done so, the rest lies with with God–and Will!
~C.S. Lewis, December 29, 1935
For reflection on Daniel 6:1-23
A man’s love for a woman is not mercenary because he wants to marry her, nor his love for poetry mercenary because he wants to read it, nor his love of exercise less disinterested because he wants to run and leap and walk. Love, by definition, seeks to enjoy it’s object.
For reflection on Song of Solomon 4:1-15
“My best friend is a person who will give me a book I have never read.”